I have used a product called Cholesteral for ethnic hair. Comes in big tub and is cheap. Looks like Crisco. Take a few tablepoons and mix in spray bottle with hot water. Spray after rinsing and brush in. It will soften and relax hair. But once the hair starts to straighten stop. It can make hair to soft. If you have a curly one- sometimes Kadabara will throw that hair- you can brush it in every other day then couple times a week once its relaxed.Make sure to blow the calf out after brushing. Also helps straighten hair.