Hey CAB. Things are going OK. Some days his attitude resorts back to typical ANX behavior. Other days are awesome. We basically sat down one night and had a thorough talk about things. Well we actually talked on the phone because he was away at school...lol. I think it helped that we talked on the phone because it wasn't so confrontational. We discussed things that have happened as a result of ANX in the past, and things he does/did because of the ANX. We talked about how to handle things in the future...simple things, and more complex things. We talked about things I didn't know about him, even after being together for 4.5 years. Life has been a lot better...actually it was awesome for a while. Then a week after he got home from school, he learned his boss was shutting down the business. Nothing to do with the recession, just couldn't handle being a manager/boss. He (his boss) has been struggling over the past year, but would refuse any help or advice. My fiance took this extremely hard, almost feeling like everything was his fault. Really, nothing was, but he just could not accept that. He was a mess for a while. Moping around, worrying about finding another job, and basically wanting to hang off my shoulder and even maybe cry a little. I would allow it. I am a bit tough when it comes to these situations. I must admit my fiance is one of the hardest workers, and is well known around town and the small city where he works. I secretly just knew he would have no problem finding another job. Well....within a week, he had another job, as well as about 6 other offers. I figured that he would let go of the old job...accepting the shutdown, but still, 3 weeks later, he is still disappointed about it. Just the ANX thoughts I suppose. He has a hard time seeing the good in all things, and letting go of those things that no longer matter. I personally, very rarely dwell on the past, and easily walk away from rotten situations! All in all, we are progressing. I had a bad day last week, and he gave me simple, but great advice. The good ole "take it one day at a time". Within hours, things were improving, and I felt like a fool for complaining in the first place! Oh how life works...it really is like a game. Like the card game "war". You could be left with 1 card, and come back and rise to the top, over and over again.
One day at a time....one day.
How are you doing?
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