To all the "Kick Back" advocates, keep that advice to yourself. It may work 5% of the time, but most often produces only tragedy.
I ask all to consider all the Showmanship Contests you have watched. Have you noticed that about 75% of the time, a girl will win? My belief is that it all goes back to the daily care and routine. Girls generally love on their calves, and more importantly, can't physically "horse them around" like the boys. Girls have to finesse their calves into leading, setting up, etc. I'm firmly convinced that tender, loving care works Every Time, when given the time!
That said, to say this: Try tying her low so she can get up and down, but can Not get water or food. Water and feed her at that spot in the morning and evening, and while she is eating, rub her all over her body and legs with a Straw Broom. After 3 or 4 days, or 2 weeks, when the broom and your presence no longer bother her, place her water six feet away, and lead her to it. After she drinks, do the same with her feed. Leave her tied, and keep this routine for another week, each day extending the walk to water and feed.
The next step is to leave her loose in the lot, haltered, with no water or feed available. Morning and evening, catch her, tie her with her head up for a mimimum 15 minutes, then lead her to her water, and then her feed. Let her drag the rope halter while keeping this routine for two weeks. Keep working her with the Broom, and start using a comb and brush as she becomes more gentle. When leading, if she is still a little stubborn, push the halter rope across her nose, causing her to turn to the right. NEVER PULL, PUSH!
From this point, you should be able to catch her, halter her, and lead her at each feeding. Continue to increase your Combing and brushing time, and start rinsing also.