Ohioteerchick
Well-known member
I have been showing cattle for a good 8-10 years now, mainly on my own. My first 2-3 years, my parents still helped, I was still learning so of course they helped. For all the years after that, I was told by my dad, 'This is YOUR project, not ours. YOU can do it on your own' and have recieved very little help. My parents buy the calves, then I break, feed and work them all on my own. I get up, feed them, when I leave for school I tie them, get home from school, work them til atleast 8 at night. My mom is the only one that shows the slightest bit of interest in helping. My dad on the other hand, doesn't help, but finds the need to make trips to my steer barn, look at my calves and tell me, 'they look really good' then right before he leaves again, comments on my calves but this time says 'they look awful, I don't know what you're doing but you're going to have to do 10 times better'. At first I thought he was just being hard on me just to get me to work harder, but I've noticed, it's not. When it comes to calves, I can't do anything right. Everything is terrible and wrong, but he doesn't want to help at all. Right before our county fair is when it gets the worst. This past year he told me, 'everything needs to look perfect, people out there know ME, NOT YOU', when I'm almost positive its equal, people know the both of us. And it's pratically impossible to meet his level of 'perfect'. What gets me the most is, he gets out at the fair, he gets around all his little friends and has the nerve to tell them how he worked all he could with my calves, and thats the best he could do with them. Only on a rare occasion will he actually tell someone that I do all the work. It really shows too, when he trys to play 'good dad' and help with the calves, they lock up, get scared and try their hardest to get away from him. Then he accuse me of not working with them, and tells me their crazy, but when I have them, I can walk them like a puppy. I've tried telling him, I want to do it on my own, but like I previously said, in his eyes, nothings right.
Yeah, I just majorly vented, but I have two more years of this left, is it really worth the fight? Or should I just give up. I love showing and all, but I'm not sure how much I can take of this.
Yeah, I just majorly vented, but I have two more years of this left, is it really worth the fight? Or should I just give up. I love showing and all, but I'm not sure how much I can take of this.